We all get fat for a reason
In another article I suggested that we all get fat for a reason, overeating is a symptom of something wrong. So the solution isn’t as easy as focussing on eating less, although that should work it’s unlikely to in practice as the original problem hasn’t been fixed. In this article I’d like to explain what I meant by that and give some suggestions for the way out.
Your self-esteem is our own internal measurements how much we feel liked, allowed and is evaluated. It develops slowly and usually towards the end of our years of adolescence is entirely formed. These is tinted glasses that we look through seeing the world. He ‘s also how we imagine the world sees us too.
My strong belief is that during our upbringing, no matter how loving our parents were they didn’t 100% fulfil our needs. It is just impossible to do so they are bound to fail. We would have viewed some of that behaviour as abusive – “they hurt me on purpose“.
This is the starting point. We all believe – to a greater or lesser extent – that we had a rough childhood. Without doubt some children did get abused, either physically or sexually. That is a rare but sad reality. What makes it even sadder is that the shame that goes with it often means that it is a guilty secret that the child keeps from the world. Over years it gets hidden and we ‘forget about it’. Only the hurt hasn’t gone away it’s just under the surface.